Hey Kathryn here...
Well we had a big family gathering these past few weeks, because of Vinjelu's sisters wedding. Gwanire and Madalits got married on the 26th of August. It was quite an exeriance.
There was family demanding the bride price (Labola) from Madalisto's family, but vinj and Tobi (his brother) already refused that tradition for different reasons, one main one being Gwanire didn't want to be paid for. That was quite an upset lots happened, and all of their family from their biological mom's side didn't come to the wedding, because of the bride praice not being paid.
For people interested the bride prices range from 3 million Kwacha to 10 million Kwacha, and even higher.
alot of poeple had problem with the tradiation not being in the wedding, it was almost imossible for them to have it thought because of the bride and goom coming 12 days before the wedding day... so the wedding looked a bit like a canadian wedding, although there were some Zambain tradiations.
So the wedding was beautiful, but not without problems.
Now we are getting ready to leave. On that note PRAISE god vinjelu got his visa!!!! Now we just need a flight from London to Toronto... been looking and looking can't find at the moment...
We are doing our last bit of recording in the next few days, we may be leaving Zambia on Sunday with Vinjelu's mom. We will stay in JOhannesburg with some friends, and will both be flying out on the 6th in the evening.
We will be back in Canada on the 7th... as for now our flight back to edmonton was cancelled and so now need to find a different flight home, it may have to be a few days later... I don't know I have to look into that again. Anyone interested in looking for us? The money we get back for that is about $500.00 for two flights from toronto to Edmonton.
There are alot of stories to tell, pictures to be shown... video to watch... see you poeple in Canada soon.
MARRIAGE.
These past two weeks have been straining because fo the wedding and all the fmaily stuff, straining on our marriage that is, vinj has to be here and there and so did I. It has been nice to have a few days alone, not sleeping with my mother in law in our room, or cousins! We have our room back untill we leave. Please just pray for unity to be there and appreciation for one another. Time, stress, full days all that puts a strain on us.
2 comments:
no marriage is without its trying times. The few things you have described would put a strain on anyone's relationship. Don't stress over it - just make every effort to remain in a loving, kind, and forgiving attitude, knowing that "this too, will pass" and soon you will be falling in love all over again.
When you get back, we'll have to be sure you get some time alone before you have to move back to Calgary and into someone else's home again.
Remind yourselves the reasons you love one another and that the annoying things that are trying to pull you apart just now are just a season - you each will be reacting to those things and responding to the stress in ways that need extra understanding.
Kath, Vinj probably needs extra love and understanding since it is stress in his family that you are experiencing. He is still Vinjelu, the patient, kind, strong man you fell in love with. keep treating him like you did just before your wedding and he'll get through it alot faster. And your love will be even stronger.
hey guys;
check the comments on your last posting - dan left you a message there. (in case you didn't see it)
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